Tending the Well

A somatic ritual for pelvic healing

February 22, 2025

10 am-1 pm PST

ONLINE

Tending the Well is a hands-on, hands-in ritual to hold and repair the collective trauma held at the core of our culture: the wound of shame that disassociates us from our sexual and reproductive anatomy, from our own sensations, and from the tremendous power and potential enthroned within our pelvises.

Enthroned. Because it’s fucking magnificent like that.

Most of us are taught from very early on to hold our shame quietly and secretly, and that internalization makes itself known through the range of its somatic expressions: pelvic pain, chronic infection, debilitating cycles, tissue congestion and inflammation. Sex that ranges from unpleasant to excruciating. Our inability to confidently speak our desires and our pleasures and to prioritize their importance - for many of us, our disconnection from what our desires and pleasures might even be. The deep sense that our bodies don’t truly belong to us, and that it’s dangerous to act as if they do. Identification with the cultural association of pelvic pain with the concept of punishment, and the logical conclusion drawn by so many of us that our pain and discomfort is our own fault, something to be ashamed of and to suffer privately. Our constant, foundational feeling that some undefinable thing is permanently wrong with us. Our continued survival-level assumption that this is simply the way it is, the way it’s always been, and the way it has to be.

If any of that resonates in your body, this is meant for you.

Tending the Well aims to act as a direct transmission from a wild, free-assed, self-sovereign future.

A future of embodied sexual agency beyond anything consent culture can currently imagine.

A future where all of you belongs.

There is another way.

Another world is not only possible. It is waiting for you to make contact and invite it in.

This workshop is for you if you:

• want to directly experience the foundation of belonging, self-sovereignty and rightness in your body

• access the reality of joy, play, and pleasure that is your animal birthright

• feel disconnected from your pelvis generally or your genitals specifically

• are someone whose responses have changed after unwanted sexual touch

• are a survivor of gender based abuse or violence, including sexual assault

• have had a challenging or traumatizing birth experience

• are regularly (or irregularly) wrecked by your menstrual cycles

• find that your relationship with solo and/or partnered sex is confusing, challenging, or painful

• feel as though your body does not belong to you

• are being worked over by perimenopause or menopause

• are pregnant now, or would like to be pregnant at some point, and experience fear about that

• have experienced birth loss

• were raised in a religion or culture that shamed you for your body, gender, or sexuality

• experience dysphoria about your genital presentation

• have experienced pelvic surgery or pelvic trauma of any kind

A Note On This Work:

As your tourguide, I promise that your real-time embodied agency - your choices rooted in your sensations of yes, no and maybe - will be honored as your true north at all times, as is essential to any trauma-informed, decently-human learning space. No participant is ever required to do anything, and each of us will proceed at the speed of trust.

I promise gentleness, slowness, and opportunity to explore at your own pace, in your own time.

You are in charge of your body, your decisions, and your experience, and the container of the workshop will support and reflect this to you.

This workshop is intended for any human being with a vulva, for the sole reason that there will be anatomical guidance specific to vulva’d bodies. Each participant will be asked to do what feels right for them, to provide feedback about preferred language, and to adapt the guidance I offer to the needs of their own body in real time. This is a 1000000% queer and trans-inclusive zone.

Participation is appropriate for people who feel capable and interested in engaging with the possibly intense emotional and somatic content that may arise, and who have access to the space, time, and emotional support to integrate it as needed.

Please consider whether or not this work feels right for you at this time.

Registration for Tending the Well is a 2 part process:

1) Fill out the registration form below, AND

2) Send your chosen amount from within the sliding scale of $100-200 to Pamela-Samuelson on Venmo or to mercuria69@gmail.com on Paypal (if you use Paypal, please account for the fees and add a little extra - thank you!) Please note it as Tending the Well.

Please consider your access to wealth, and pay the amount that is in integrity and appropriate for you.

Scholarships are also available as needed - please contact me to discuss!

Please note that an email with all information to join will go out to registered participants one week before class.